Are we too old for cuckolding?

It pains me that so many older people have this idea, we have received this question a lot and usually, I answer it privately but felt like it would help more people if I answered this publically, for all to see, so that others can understand the fears that some older couples may feel when stepping into this lifestyle.

Porn is centered around beautiful people, everywhere you look there’s a new beauty standard and a youthful look to pull off and I can totally understand why that leaves some people thinking that this lifestyle isn’t for them, so today we are answering a burning question from a curious couple who think they’re too old to be enjoying such ‘young people’ things.

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Question: Are we too old for cuckolding?

We’re a British couple in our sixties who want to try opening things up. I’d love to see my wife with another man. I just don’t know if it’s too late. The original email can be seen here with full consent to share from the sender.

Hey Sarah, I have been debating sending this message but I finally feel as if I have to as we are always on your blog and we love your advice.

My wife and I have been together for the best part of 30 years. I’m in my sixties (63) and my wife is just approaching sixty. We’ve never tried swinging or sharing before but I’ve always wanted to and for the longest time I have wanted to share my wife and witness her being intimate with another man. I would also not mind being with another woman if that’s where this road leads, but to be totally honest we’re both set on her finding another man first and seeing what follows.

My wife is very keen, she shares fears of being rejected but holds the mentality that life is too short to not experience more. We are both retired and in the prime of our lives, we have never had such high sex drives and we know how short life is. All of our kids have flown the nest and now, it’s time for us to do some exploring as a mature couple, and yet, something is stopping us.

We are afraid we are too old for this lifestyle, we don’t want to go to a swingers club to find ourselves as the oldest in there. My wife worries everyone would think she was a grandma and I guess I have the same worries too, I don’t want to feel like the old man whilst all of the other clubgoers are fit and young.

Don’t get me wrong, we are both fit and healthy. My wife is in incredible shape and she could give any young buck a run for his money, she loves big sizes and has practiced with lots of dildos, and yet she still feels as though she will stick out in this lifestyle and be labeled as ‘past it’.

Our question is, will we find people our age at swinging clubs and parties? I don’t want my wife to feel dejected, so is it best if we keep things online or just between us in the bedroom? Also, have you and Jack ever played with an older couple?

TL;DR (breakdown of the question): An older couple feels as though they’re ready to step into the lifestyle but don’t know if their age puts them at a disadvantage. Their worries are extremely common and something many older swingers and lifestylers are concerned about.


Answer: From Sarah

Part owner of and a full-time hotwife to Jack. I have played with older couples and been to loads of sex clubs and parties, enough to give you a good idea about the average age of people who enjoy this lifestyle.

I’m answering this as someone who has played with older couples and been to lots of sex clubs, and parties, and used practically every decent lifestyle dating site.

I’ve had a few older couples, both men and women who tell me that they are scared or feel like they missed their opportunity, they feel as if they found this lifestyle too late or a really common one is they used to swing or share, but then stopped while starting a family and then never came back and feel like they missed out and don’t know how to start things back up again now. I have also spoken firsthand to a lot of couples who have retired and realized they didn’t live their lives to the max for many years and just want to experience the things they’ve been missing.

First of all, I have good news because I want to make it clear that you are definitely not too old for this lifestyle. This life choice is extremely inclusive and many cucks and their hotwives tend to find this lifestyle later in life, it seems to be that younger people are only just starting to really dive into the lifestyle whereas before it was mostly an older generational thing to enjoy.

You are never too old to join, you might need to travel a little to find the right community, but loads of swingers are 60+ well into their 70s or 80s and even then there’s still room to try it and not feel like the odd one out.

There are A LOT of older people in this lifestyle, and at your age, you’ll find couples older, younger, and the same age who want to play. I have played with a lot of older men and couples, in fact, for me, finding younger people was actually a lot harder than finding mature, horny couples.

If you join our membership you will see that we have loads of older members from 50 all the way up to 75+ who are active users on our membership and share stories and experiences they have. It’s totally normal for older people to share their most intimate moments with us.

Swinger and sex parties are a great way to explore, just be sure to check the minimum and maximum age limits and be sure to ask the organizers for the average age range of members. The age depends on location, some places we’ve gone to have an average age of 50 – 65+, some 30 – 65+, and some 20 – 30s, there are also lots of communities that are 60 plus.

Some of the older couples we play with prefer dating sites (these are our favorite cuck dating sites to enjoy) where they can meet couples their own age and some also use dating sites to find younger guys who like older women, as there are plenty of them.

It’s even easier if you’re not looking for a couple and just want a guy, I’ve not seen many couples have a problem finding a solo guy at any age. It’s actually easier as there’s one less person you have to get on with to get the sex happening.

Knowing what you want, your type, and what kind of experience you’re looking for, will save you a lot of time, effort, and energy and you can just be open and honest. Have a good perspective and be ready to get down and dirty.

There are sex parties and events you can go to, cuckold/lifestyle vacations like hedo hotel, most cities have a sex club or two, and dating sites.

The only thing that really matters at most sex clubs or when you’re starting this lifestyle is to be super hygienic, wear sexy, clean clothes that match the club’s requirements, ask for consent before doing anything, and show respect if someone turns you down. Taking care of your body isn’t usually an issue, but the nicer you look the easier it is. Be open and honest about what you want and your age will never come into it. You will just be seen as a mature, sexy couple looking for fun like the hundreds of others in there.

Breakdown of my answer: You’re never too old to join this lifestyle, just choose the right locations, do your research, and know exactly what it is that you want from your experiences.

If you have any more questions, please do get in touch or leave your comments down below!

I'm Sarah, I'm the hotwife of this blog. I share my stories and experiences of being a hotwife for the past 4 years, the ups the downs and how it affected my relationship.

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