My wife wants to try a big cock, what do I do?

This weekend we got a really good question from one of our readers and I wanted to take the time to answer it here, to help anyone who may have the same thought running through their mind. We have protected their identity as this reader wanted to remain anonymous but was happy for their question to be answered publically.

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A few weeks ago my wife and I were having some naughty fun with some new sex toys that we bought.

One of the toys was a big realistic dildo. I never thought it would fit inside of her, but she asked me to try anyway. Spoiler alert, during our fun she got it out of the toy box, lubed it up, and took it all, I was shocked and instantly aroused. She thrust it deep inside of her and it got her cumming in a matter of minutes (she usually takes a lot longer to cum).

I went in her after she had came, and the dildo had stretched her out, she was so so wet. She would pull me out and swap me with the dildo, it was driving her wilder than anything I’d ever seen.  

It didn’t stop there though, I asked her about how much it had turned her on and she admitted that she really loved size play, she just never knew how to tell me.

You see, I am not that big down there, 5 inches, maybe 5.2 on a good day.

I was both madly turned on by her revelation and also had a sense of being hurt and feeling completely inadequate.

Anyway, this then turned me to your blog, and as strange as this sounds, I think this experience has opened me up to my cuckold side. On the sly, I started getting off to the idea of my wife with another man.

Fast forward a few weeks and we picked up some larger toys for her to play with.

Things like penis sleeves, and really large dildos that were over 9 inches and we got really carried away with them.

A few days ago I asked her while she was using her large dildo if she would like the real thing, she screamed“YES!!!”, and started moaning and I got her to cum a few times in a row at the idea of trying the real thing.

After the fun, my wife asked if I was being serious about it.

I didn’t know what to say.

She asked if she could try being with someone with a bigger cock.

My wife has never and never would cheat on me, we have a great marriage and sex life, this has all come out of nowhere but I liked how it made me feel.

I got an instant erection and my horny side said yes, but I have no idea if this was something I actually wanted to do.

After saying yes, I needed to dig a little deeper, this kind of all came out of nowhere. So, I asked about her past.

It turns out that her ex was the one who had given her this desire. His cock was really big, he knew how to use it and she stayed with him for 4 years even though he was shitty and they had no deep connection, all because of how he made her cum.

This was the catalyst that made me realize I may actually be a bigger cuck that I realized, I started getting off to the idea of them together.

We would talk about it, play with her dildos, and pretend it was him fucking her.

Anyway, this has left a mess for me.

I’m now pretty insecure about my size as well.

What should I do? I really want it to happen, nothing has ever turned me on as much as this. I don’t even know where we would go about finding the right guy to fuck her, he has to be hung and girthy, also understanding that it’s just sex, my wife doesn’t want to be with him.

I think I want her to experience it, does this make me a cuckold? Should I do it? Will it break us?

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I totally understand this conflict you’re going through. It happens a lot for people in this lifestyle, especially at the very beginning of your journey.

You ask yourself why would you want to ruin a perfectly good relationship, to scratch a horny itch. However, for some, it’s a lot more than an itch.

First thing, try not to let insecurity play a part in your journey, your cock size is average and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. According to a study published by the British Journal of Urology International which looked at the flaccid and erect length of over 15 thousand men found the average penis length was 5.1 inches erect. There’s a really good breakdown of this fact on science.org.

Second, your wife isn’t alone in enjoying size play. Sarah, my partner loves bigger cock and we went through a similar realization. We also tried out bigger toys and used a penis sleeve too but we figured that the real thing was just always better for her. It isn’t that she doesn’t love my cock and what I have to offer but a bigger dick is just a kink for her, just as I have my own kinks too.

Communicating and understanding one another is so important before you go any further. Let her know your insecurities and learn about her new kink, let her open up to you and reassure you that it’s just a preference from time to time.

Be sure to both be on the same page, you have to want this as much as your wife does otherwise you may run into complications. My best advice would be to continue playing with large sex toys, keep talking, and keep exploring before figuring out what it is you both want from this, whilst keeping things fun and exciting.

If you have any deep insecurities fix them before entering this lifestyle especially if they are penis related, as these things can cause resentment and make you feel lesser and then this can cause anger and can a lot of angst.

Take things slowly, pick a guy, role-play him fucking her, blindfold her and use a large sleeve or a big dildo. Give the dildo a name, when you use it make her say the name. Make her show you how she would fuck a big dick with her dildo. Read this and familiarize yourself with what to expect from a big cock. Get used to these ideas and see how it makes you feel, is it good or bad?

Check out our cuckold training guide, to see if being a cuckold or a stag is something you relate with or maybe a voyeur is more of what you are, don’t worry too much about labels, they are only useful for finding porn you like and for getting advice, at the end of the day you like what you like and it shouldn’t change it if it means you’re a cuckold, stag, bull or just yourself.

If this lifestyle isn’t for you, you will know about it quickly.

If it is for you, there is something so hot, seductive, and powerful about seeing your wife/girlfriend riding a hung guy and getting her rocks off and loving every second of it. Understand that she will probably cum harder and faster with him. You get to see the real sexual her and you’ll probably see a side to her you’ve never seen before. (What you can expect from your first-time sharing her is really important to read too).

Also, understand he might have a big dick but suck at using it, cum too quick, has no rhythm, etc. In my case this is not usually the problem as for women who just want size they can get in the driver’s seat and make the magic happen.

Sarah loves that I let her scratch that itch, but every relationship is different so learn what makes yours tick.

I hope this helps you and anybody reading this question, if you need anything else, feel free to leave your questions in the comments below or get in touch!

Update: This wife had her first big cock and they were nice enough to submit a quick video of her taking it. It was uploaded to our membership to keep things private.